"I'm Draya Michele and I would like people to know that I'm a mother first, but I'm very, very serious about my business."

I interviewed Draya in April 2016, one week before her son Jru was born.

I: What is the most important tool that motherhood has helped you develop?

D: Patience for everyone and everything. Being a mom can slow you down and it forces you to have patience. Because when you're dealing with children you can't rush and if you're able to use that in your every day life, it helps. Patience is a tool.

I: What is a moment you've shared with your son Kniko that you will never forget?

D: I'm very honest with my son, and I like to keep him in the loop about everything so I made sure that he was the first one I told about me having a new baby, making sure that he knew his importance in my life, that me having a new baby wasn't going to change anything. And I chose to keep my pregnancy a secret until I was about 5 or 6 months, but I made sure that he knew and it wasn't a secret from him. I kept him in the loop so that he didn't feel like he was missing out on anything.

I: Where does your strength come from?

D: My strength comes from the doubters. It's just that failing is not an option at this point so it's definitely motivational. It's what gets me up in the morning and gets me going and keeps me standing on my own two feet. Some people might consider it a weakness, but not me.

I: What was your most memorable moment with yourself?

D: Seeing myself on a 40 foot screen in a movie theatre was surreal. To be able to go to a movie theatre and see a film that I'm in and that I've put a lot of hard work and effort into....and to be taken seriously as an actress, coming from reality TV, it was a surreal moment.

I: Who taught you how to love?

D: I taught myself how to love. I've had my heart broken enough times to understand what happens when you love and to not be scared of that. I gave a lot of love away too soon and wasted a lot of time. I used lessons from my previous relationships on other people and that didn't work. You have to treat everyone different and give everyone their fair chance at love, and every love I've had has been different.

I: What is a movie that has impacted your life?

D: Concussion opened my eyes to a lot of things. I'm engaged to an athlete so I always have concerns for him and his health. I'm raising sons so I have to be cautious and careful of what I let them do. This movie highlighted that the brain is a floating object inside of water and if it gets rattled too much, you know bangs up against the side of the skull, it can be dangerous. And there are crazy effects to having a concussion, so you have to make the best decision, knowing that information, if you want your kids to play sports. If you want your spouse to play sports.

I: What is the number one killer of happiness?

D: The hate of other people. I don't really think the opinions of people you don't know matter. But when it's someone that you're close to and you love, their negativity towards your happiness could be a really bad feeling. There's a lot of times that you have friends that don't approve of your relationship, or parents that don't approve of your friends, or spouses that don't approve of your family or friends, and all of those things can kind of mess up the balance of your life and ruin your happiness.

I: What is the most loved you have ever felt?

D: I think just being a mother. It's the kind of love you can't get anywhere else.

I: There are two kinds of people in this world; what are they?

D: Honest people and liars. That's it. No in between. You're either a liar or you're an honest person.

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